Me (29F) and BF (31M) have been together for 15 months and have been seeing each other for over 2 years. This week I got mad at him for the first time ever over something he did behind my back he knew was wrong to keep from me.
After we talked that through he made a comment about how he’s been keeping our relationship together through all the challenges I’ve been going thru since he met me. Mind you I have gone thru a lot of turbulence in my personal life since we’ve been together and I get this will wear a partner down.
He then said “You know I’m really picky and if we met earlier and I knew how much you had going on I probably wouldn’t have dated you”.
This has been repeating in my head over the last 24 hours and I’m genuinely hurt over it. Like I get it feels like he’s seen me thru a lot more downs than ups but did you have to say that to my face? Now I’m wondering if he’s reaching his limit and not being direct with me about it.
I want to bring this up to him when I see him tomorrow and share how this hurt me. I also want to temperature check because I refuse to be in another relationship where someone secretly resents me or is actually unhappy being with me but won’t leave.
Part of me wants to end things over it but I may be overreacting. He’s overall a wonderful man and a gem but that comment really hurt me.