We've been together for 2 years. We live separately and I go to his place on the weekends. First of all, he is upset when I have to leave on Sunday. But I have to run errands, grocery shop, get ready for the week, etc. He always acts upset and says he wants reassurance every time I leave so he knows I care about him. I always tell him I love him, I show it every time we are together. But he feels rejected when I have to leave. I'm not sure how to handle this because I have to get things done before the week. I'm away from home when I'm with him on the weekend, so I need some time to get home, and meal prep, laundry, etc.
He had an event come up on Sunday at the time I usually leave by. He asked for me to go but I said I wouldn't be able to since I've got my usual chores to do. This event wasn't anything special, it was a last minute hang out with his friends, so it wasn't something that was once in a lifetime or anything. I didn't think anything of it. He said it would be nice if I could go since he wants to spend more time with me. I told him I appreciate that, but it was a bit too last minute, during the time I leave and I had to add an extra errand to help my friend with. He immediately got upset at this and said that he thought I leave to go do chores, not hang out with friends. I told him I am just going to see her to help with her really quick with something, and that it's just another errand on the way to the store. He proceeded to say things like "You apparently don't do what you say you're doing then. I guess you've got time for everyone but me."
This really bothered me because in the past, I tried to set up things for him and I to do so we can see each other more. But he didn't want to do them. I tried to consider both of us to make it easy and stress free, like finding a location halfway between us to go to. Doing something cheap or free, picnic at a park, etc. But he said he'd rather I just go to him. I told him it would be nice if I didn't have to drive allthe way out to him all the time, and if he wants to see me more, we could meet half way distance wise and do something fun. He said no to this, this tuned into a whole fight about asking him to drive 25-30 minutes so I dont have to go the whole way to him every time. He said something along the lines of "I didn't realize you dont like coming to see me". Which I not what I was saying at all.
Anyway…I get he wants to see me more. But there's part of me that is a little upset that he is willing to drive that distance to see his friends but not me. When apparently he wants to spend more time with me. Just only if I come to him.
Anyway again, (sorry I felt like that context was needed) me going to help a friend real quick is something I am doing with my own time. I didn't realize it was something I needed to ask him if I could do. He said I can do whatever I want but that he needs reassurance. He wanted me to say something like "I'd love to go with you but I have chores to do."…I already am on edge anytime I bring up something I need to do on my own time. He already makes me feel bad for having to leave on sunday. He says he feels like I am prioritzing errands over him. To me, I am just a person that needs some time to do basic normal things like laundry and grocery shopping. I dont want to have to apologize about it every time and prove my love to him. i always hug him, tell him I love him and that I cant wait to see him again every time. We got in a fight about it and I feel crazy having to explain that me doing grocery shopping isnt a punishment to him. And that a last minute thing with my friend isn't me rejecting him. How can I tell him about what I'm doing with my time without upsetting him? I dont want him to feel rejected or unloved.
TLDR: BF is upset about me having to leave on the weekend. He wants to spend more time but only on his terms. He feels like I am not prioritizing him when I have to handle basic chores. What can I do?