My (almost 20 year long) friend is almost half way through her pregnancy. We are close and talk every day. However, since trying to become pregnant it’s all she cares to talk about and now even worse actually being pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, I am thrilled for her and her husband but it’s gotten to the point where I’m frustrated and a bit sad. I’m on my own fertility journey (smbc) and it has been so far difficult. She knows this as I have included her the whole way so far. But it’s like she just enjoys throwing it in my face that she is actually pregnant and i’m not. I get constant messages about how great it is to be pregnant and how she loves it. I can only send so many more hearts back to her before I just give up.
Now, some will think it’s jealously but it’s not that. Would I like to be in the same position as her right now? Yes, but my time may or may not come and that’s okay (I’m aware life has its own rules), but it just feels like complete disrespect and disregard on her end for not respecting my situation. We can’t have regular conversations anymore because they always circle back to her pregnancy. She also sends me snap chats of her belly every single day. If i limit conversation with her she gets salty and I know will talk shit about me to another person for not responding (she has done it to someone else and told me).
I have a feeling it’s only going to get worse when she has the kid. Is it worth throwing such a long friendship out the door? She is not good with boundaries and I’m not someone that is good with conflict because of past trauma so any advice would be very appreciated.