Hi everyone. I need help understanding my husband's Fb activity. To provide some background info: we have been married for 7 years. In the past, he used to spend a lot of time browsing pornography and Instagram (both of which he has given up for a few years and counting). I was quite hurt by the addiction, because I was (and still have) the higher libido and so I never dropped the ball in the intimacy/sex department.
Because of this, and because he uses his laptop all the time for work, I still check his internet history. I realize this is not healthy, but setting that aside, I am curious what everyone's thoughts are on what I've been noticing. For years now, he seems to look up the same 5-10 women (some of whom he went on a few dates with, some of whom he dated for just a few months, and some who are friends of friends). He doesn't message them or like any of their photos, but he does browse through their photos. Important to note: he is not Fb friends with any of these women so the profile is the limited version.
Here's what I struggle with. I understand if there is a curiosity about them, and so there's the urge to go through their Fb pages and see what they're up to now. But what I'm struggling with is – their public profiles are only limited to a few photos, so why the constant need to look up these women? It makes me feel like he doesn't want to lose the memory of their faces and feels the need to constantly search them and go through their profile photos. And if that's not the case – then the even more hurtful thing to me is – what is he doing while he's looking at these photos? (i.e. masturbating?). As I mentioned earlier, even after 2 kids, I am still the one with a higher libido, I initiate sex because he tells me that's the dynamic he prefers, and I am literally DTF any time day/night…so what gives? I don't feel like there's a void that needs to be filled in that department.
Can someone please shine a light on this? Would appreciate any discussion.