My (34f) partner (32m) hasn't been able to make me orgasm, which I don't blame him bc even I have a hard time achieving that. I'm jealous that he cums every time, and in order for me to, I use toys after, which takes a while. I know I need to explore more, I'm just really not motivated to do stuff without my partner. I tend to never get quite as much foreplay as I want, my partner gets anxious about losing time for other stuff (he's just always been anxious about time in general) but I know I need to be more assertive about asking for more, its just really hard for me. Things usually go at his pace, he usually asks for oral (which I have no problem with) before I offer, and I almost always oblige, he almost always asks for piv before me. Sometimes I make him wait a little bit, but its hard to deny. I want to give him oral and have piv, but it always happens before I've had my own fill, and that's ultimately on me. I want to be more assertive, more demanding, but its hard to, so I was hoping for some advice here. How can I be more selfish?