I (25)F and the guy I’m currently seeing (24)M have been involved for about a month. It’s kind of a situationship. We were including each other in our plans, using affectionate language and kind of relationship stuff.
He’s usually very busy during a week, so we normally only see each other once or twice a week. Everything was going well, but then I got really sick for about a week and could barely even leave the house. During that time, our communication dropped a lot on both sides and we became distant.
After that, we decided to talk things through. We agreed verbally that we wouldn’t involve anyone else in our lives romantically/segually. Then I went over to his place, we were having a good time, and I suddenly had a strong feeling to check his phone. I know it was wrong, but I did. I found messages with another girl where they had made plans to meet multiple times, but it kept getting postponed for different reasons. When I saw that, I felt really hurt and angry because it broke my trust. At first I refused to listen to his explanation, but later I did.
He said: “I was starting to develop really intense feelings for you, and when it seemed like you had pulled away and stopped communicating, I wanted to distract myself by trying the same things with someone else and prove to myself that what I had with you wasn’t something special.Then I realized what I was doing was wrong, and I never actually met up with her.” (From the messages, that part seemed true but he invited her his place.)
Is this worth trying to fix, or is it the kind of rs I should walk away from?
TL;DR: I found messages between the guy I’m seeing and another girl after we agreed not to involve other people. He says it happened when we were distant. I don’t know if this is worth fixing or ending.