My coworker (34m) has been very open about liking me (25f) these past few months. Ever since he told me, I can’t stop observing him and analyzing his behavior.
On paper, we match perfectly. Our personalities match, we have the same beliefs about certain things, he stimulates me intellectually, and we’ve had some deep conversation, so I know how he thinks (which I really like).
BUT I’m not really physically attracted to him. He’s actually a conventionally attractive guy (tall, dark features, has a very deep sexy voice, a beard—literally what I like in a guy), yet I can’t seem to understand why I‘m only mentally attracted to him and not physically.
Long-term, I know he’d make a fantastic husband and a father. He’s very honest with his feelings and is emotionally available which is a rarity these days. Do I push through this weird phase and hope the physical attraction will come later or stop feeding this connection?
I also think it’s worth to note that I did have a very brief crush on him when we started working together (last yea), but it disappeared randomly for some reason.