Hi all, a bit of a long one, apologies in advance
Him (23M) and I (23F) have been seeing each other for a little over 2 months. For the first 3 or 4 weeks, we went on dates every weekend, didn’t even kiss till our 4th date, which was great. I could tell he liked me, would plan dates, tried to make extra time during the week to see me as well. It was going well. Then unfortunately something happened. I found out my dad cheated on my mom over the weekend before the Monday that I met him. I was obviously upset, and unfortunately took it out on him. I went pretty silent during our meet up and even though he tried to ask if everything’s okay, I didn’t answer and pulled away. Long story short, I know I was wrong, I was going through a lot and unfortunately rashly ended things with him. This was on Wednesday. By Friday I had more time to think and realized I was wrong to put those expectations on him, especially when it was so early in our dating relationship, and apologized. We agreed to start each other again.
Well since then, our dynamic is a bit different. He’s still nice to me and I don’t really see a difference in his energy towards me, but he doesn’t ask me out on dates anymore. We still see each other weekly, but its mostly at his place where we get physical, where even then he’s nice to me, cuddles me after, walks me to my place, gives a goodbye hug, etc, but I’m wondering if this is all we are to him now. Before we crossed the physical line, I asked to be exclusive, and he promptly agreed. The problem is, when I apologized for my behavior when the thing with my dad happened, I may have mentioned one too many times that we were just casual, not planned on being serious (I leave the country in Dec, which is why we agreed to just have fun, this was also around our 3rd or 4th date in the start), which is why I thought he may have taken the hint and not try to pursue me any further? I know, thats on me, but I was trying to play it cool. But I’m not sure if its that or if he’s genuinely not as interested as he was in the start. We still text, he texts me the day after we get physical, talk about our days, but its lesser compared to how it was in the start, and most importantly, he hasn’t asked me on an actual date since we “got back together” after the thing with my dad, which was around 3 weeks ago.
I would love some opinions, I’ve been very confused recently. Thanks guys
TL;DR confusion surrounding our current dynamic, how do i begin to clarify and understand it?