I (M23) have basically always enjoyed masturbating more than having sex. I don’t inherently know why, and I want to try to fix this.
A common response to this might be that my relationship is bad or I’m addicted to porn, but truthfully, I just feel better masturbating in almost every scenario. When I’m single, I very rarely desire searching for hookups, and when in a relationship it’s a lot easier to just get it done myself. When it comes to masturbation, I can do what I want at my pace and I enjoy the feeling of privacy, compared to sex where I of course need to be conscious of what my partner wants and how she feels.
I usually feel a bad post-nut clarity feeling either way, but it’s way worse after sex. Not that I regret the sex, that my partner is unattractive, or anything of the sort, I just feel drained and kinda shitty afterwards. Because of that, it’s a lot easier to just clean myself up after masturbating and get on with my day compared to sex where I can’t just fuck off. I’ve never really been super horny and blinded by my dick, so other than the very occasional horny days, I don’t have that desire and passion to make love to my girlfriend.
I’d love to hear any ideas or feedback on what I can do about this, or if anyone has similar experiences.