For context, I’m 30F and have a 7-year-old daughter with my ex (31M). We’re currently going through court regarding custody. We were together for 6.5 years and split up nearly two years ago.
The relationship was controlling and abusive (he disputes this). Leaving was a huge relief for me and my eldest daughter (12), who never had a good relationship with him. After we separated, he harassed me to the point that he became known to the police and was placed on bail for three months.
I moved on fairly quickly, but that’s because I had already been trying to leave for about a year and a half before it officially ended. When my ex found out I was seeing someone new, he reacted aggressively. He made hostile comments about my partner and said things to our daughter like, “If he ever tells you what to do, he’ll earn what happens,” and “Don’t get close to him because Mummy will throw him away just like she threw Daddy away.”
That really unsettled her. I do my best to make my home a safe space for her, but he refuses to stop making these kinds of comments. He claims he’s “protecting his daughter”
In the last hour, I found out our daughter has met my ex’s “friend,” who has a son. I strongly suspect this is actually his new partner. I’ve previously told my ex that I would want to meet anyone he introduces to our daughter, but he refused, saying he never got to meet my partner.
There’s no point trying to reason with him about the past threats or the bail situation, as he takes no responsibility for his actions.
So my questions are:
1. Do I have the right to know who this woman is?
2. Do I have the right to introduce myself if she’s spending time around my daughter?
Tl;dr my ex introduced his new girlfriend without telling me