So I came across this video skit and it actually got me thinking.
In the video, a girl is arguing with her boyfriend because he dropped his ex home late at night. She is clearly upset and keeps asking why she was even invited in the first place and why he did not maintain any boundaries.
The boyfriend says it was not his idea to invite her. Apparently it was a mutual friend who brought her. But then she got really drunk and he decided to drop her home.
That is where things start getting intense.
The girl keeps asking why he had to be the one to take her home, especially knowing that this is his ex and they were in a 2 year relationship. She brings up that if the situation was reversed and she had to drop her ex home late at night, would he really be okay with it.
Instead of answering that properly, the boyfriend kind of deflects and says something like “oh wow, now your ex is in the equation,” which completely misses her point. She tries to explain that it is not about her ex, it is about boundaries, but he keeps saying that if she understood him, the fight would not have even happened.
What annoyed me even more was the fact that the creator wanted the audience to understanding the man.
But I do not really see it that way.
I understand helping someone who is drunk, that is the right thing to do. But this is not just any girl. This is someone you had history with. And I feel like that automatically changes how you should handle the situation.
Out of everyone there, why did it have to be him. Why not ask someone else. Why put yourself in that position at all.
And realistically, if the roles were reversed, I do not think most people would be okay with it.
Maybe I am biased, but I am fully on the girl’s side here. It is not even about cheating. It is about awareness and respecting boundaries.
What would you have done in that situation?
TL;DR:
Boyfriend drops his ex home late at night because she was drunk. Girlfriend is upset about boundaries, especially since they had a 2 year history. He says he was just helping, but avoids addressing how it looks. I get the intention, but I still think it crosses a line. I am on the girl’s side. What would you have done?