Background:
I 21F hate stupid people. And no its not conventually textbook "stupid" its more like lacking emotional intelligence type of stupid. But also a little bit of the textbook stupid. I assume this is because I was the eldest daughter of an immigrant mother who dropped out in 3rd grade, and she was taken advantage of young, so she had me in a very bad place in her life + in a new country she didnt know the language of. So I grew up having to hear her most atrocious takes ever in the world and if I ever correct her even politely I would get beat to a pulp. so I assume thats why I debate more openly (with people of equal standing) now, and why I dont have patience for ignorant people, because I already have to constantly deal wirt that at home and its enough for multiple lifetimes. It gets to the point where if I keep debating with an ignorant person I will literally cry of frustration and rage and even hurt myself like I truly hate hate hate ignorant people like its a burning deep hatred literally dubious
Actually story: I, (21F) have a boyfriend (20M) of 3.4 years, he was a very VERY sheltered kid, also had a problematic mom who was in and out of pyschosis for his entire life so his only socialization was church until he was 16, he was homeschooled until sophomore highschool so….. ynfortunate for me this makes him lack tons of emotional intelligence since thats something you get naturally by…well…socializing.
Hes extremely spoiled too (which i think is relevant because maybe his ego is too high to learn from beinf wrong) somehow, for some reason, everyone does everything for him and hes also not afraid to ask for materialistic things or anythinf bevause he somehow always gets it.
He cant phrase his sentences correctly, he talks without giving context and gets mad when I dont understand him (imagine this over 10 times a day for 3 years. Yeah it gets fucking annoying) and hes just not socially aware of anything. ANYTHING. Just think of ANYTHING that would fall under the umbrella of "lacking social intelligence" and thats him. Theres no exception that IS him.
Recently I guess my last straw was used and now im no longer askinf for context or reminding him hes doing it again, now I just leave him on read until he figures it out himself (or stare at him when its irl) and it becomes an argument. Because im so evil for not holding his hand like the million other times and teaching him how to speak his own language properly.
He also does this thing where he brings up random ass points that have NO correlation and when I ask for the correlation it just starts a loop of more no correlation points and I literally have to walk away bevayse I will hurt myself, no exaggeration, I claw myself.
And its even more infuriating because its always over the most stupidest things EVER.
For example, today, at his house, we were talking and we were making fun of edgy kids, the topic of Call of duty came up, my boyfriend brings up the common phrase "this guy clearly never grew up in a Call Of Duty lobby" people use when referring to "woke" people, and I brought up how its funny i personally contradict that saying bevause ive been playing cod since ps2, and im a pretty dead set leftist. and this man swore on his life and fought so hard to make me sound like I was lying. First he said call of duty was never on ps2, then he said modern warfare (a sub series for cod) was never on ps2 and tried to hard to convince me that THAT is what I said, and aftwr 5 minutes of him even calling his friend to get him to also gang up on me I just walk out of the room and leave rhe house and go home. Then only 20 minutes later does he message me, not to apologize, but to continue where he left off and keep trying to prove me wrong.
Its insufferable I just cant like I swear to god. Like I know its not his fault bevause he was reared like this until so late in his life, social interaction is literally new to him and im his first girlfriend so I unfortunately have to fight the 7 deadly sins until hes a tolerable person.
This sounds like I haye my boyfriend but keep in mind im focusing on one single thing out of many other seeming qualities in his personality. This is fortunately the only issue, but unfortunately its an issue I absolutely cannot stand.
Ps. Both of our moms are normal now and healthy and doing good, nor do I blame my mom for how she raised me or how she acted, what she went thru was terrible and im proud of her for persevering.
Pls tell me what you guys would do? No im not breaking up with him.
How do I cope with my zero patience for ignorant people ? Is it like a exposure therapy type of thing ? HELP
If I sound overly aggressive its bevause the example I gave JUST happened and it hasn't been resolved yet so im still pissed and over it.
Edit 1: ironically some of you are either skimming the post or being stupid on purpose to incite me (its working). If you actually read what I wrote I said this impatience is a new recent thing. For 3 full years I have been aiding to his lack of social skills and understanding. I know where it comes from and I understand why he is how he is– that doesnt mean ill be okay with him forever beinf a mental toddler and me never being able to tolerate certain people. I know i have a problem its literallt my first paragraph. At the end I asked how to overcome it. He IS trying his best. He IS working on it. Bevause I am helping him. But I dont have anyone to help me with my issue whoch is why my post is written in the perspective of me making my issue the problem which is why for the question I focused it on me. Because obviously feeling so intense about someone being airheaded isnt normal.