Throwaway account, but I just need to gather as much information as possible because I want to help make the right decision for us.
I (M28) am absolutely in love with my partner (M30). We’ve been seeing each other for almost a year now, and while we did have a rocky start. We’ve had some great times along the way.
The thing is, I am very involved with my work. I spend up to 12+ hours a day there, with a long commute home. I also spend weekends helping out my parents as they are not in a great situation.
My partner is very understanding, but has always expressed the (valid) need for more time with me. It’s lead to sadness and arguments. A lot of things fall through the cracks with me, as I can admit I feel overwhelmed.
He came to me recently after a very relaxing day together and brought up their concerns yet again, but I finally was able to see the hurt they’ve felt. I started to initiate that we may need to part ways, as I unfortunately can’t change the situation I am due to personal/financial reasons.
Upon talking, the idea of a break came up. I would spend my time bettering my situation (not only for us, but for myself too). And we’d come back together. I love him so much, I don’t want to lose him, and he doesn’t want to lose me. He feels horrible because he can feel himself building resentment about things that are outside of my control, and things that are in my control but I haven’t been able to grant proper time and attention to.
My question is, has anyone ever taken a break successfully? Do you establish boundaries? How long? This is the man I want to marry. I see a future with him, and they’ve told me the same thing. They’re just worried that my hectic life will become theirs as well. He’s emphasized that there is not lost feelings, and I as well. I don’t want anyone else nor does he.