Hi there. This story involves me, F(18), and we will call her M, F(21). Me and M have had a talking stage going on for a couple of weeks. There were some rocky parts, but ultimately we got along well and our date was the best one I have ever had.
There are a couple of issues though. Recently, she left on a trip for a couple of days to a friend's graduation. Before she left, we agreed on having a talk about what we were. The day she left, we had a phone call that night. It ended on a bad note. I didn't speak to her for a day, and then she didn't speak to me for a day. Then, we both agreed to talk when she returned.
Well, she returned from her trip. My coworker saw her come in with another girl with M having her arm around this girls shoulder. My coworker asked if we were still dating because they seemed "together-together".
I was extremely pissed and upset. M came in for work later that day, found out I now knew about this girl, and asked to talk. That went poorly. We talked the following day, and safe to say that also went poorly as I was sobbing.
So, we didn't talk for a few days. I said I wanted nothing left to do with her. Here is now the issue though…
We talked tonight. I stormed out of work very upset and she was hanging out with her friends there, so she followed out to check on me (I was having a panic attack). We ended up talking for an hour.
I have missed her, so much. People get crushes all the time growing up, but not me. She is the second person I've ever genuinely romantically liked.
She says she misses me too, and I can tell she is torn up about everything too. Talking to her was the lightest I have felt in days. I asked about the other girl, and she says it won't workout because she is still thinking of me constantly and likes me.
What would you do? Any advice on how to navigate this? I thought there wasn't a way to salvage this, at all. I tore into her a bit for doing what she did. But, I like her more than I can be mad