No interest in debating the issue on its merits or legal stance, plenty of other forums for that. I have my views, you have yours, and I'm not asking anyone else to agree with me.
I (44M) have a lot going on within my being at the moment. Some of it is usual midlife crisis-ish stuff, some of it is family-of-origin stuff, some of it is my own nuclear family, just in general a lot of stirred up emotions that are uncomfortable or problematic for any number of reasons. I am seeing an outstanding Family Systems therapist and she is helping me try to sort through it all, and she really wants me to use my feelings and try to get away from the default way men process things which tends to be by thinking.
One thing that has really risen to the surface – after believing I had sufficiently dealt with it 9 years ago – is grief from a past abortion my wife (44F) had. It occurred several years before she met me. And learning about it absolutely recked my ass. Like full-on needed therapy, needed anti-depressants just to help me sleep enough to even be functional at work. Not a pleasant time, but I hung in with myself, and I chose to love my gf (now wife) and make the relationship work and I am so glad I did. Some of it was probably the timing and manner in which she revealed it, but I think mostly it was a traumatic shock to the system because abortion was something that just was never done, allowed, or viewed positively by anyone in my family (nuclear or extended) growing up.
At any rate, I am just curious if others (particularly men) out there have strong feelings of sadness (or really strong feelings of any type) on this issue. And if not, if I'm the only one, so be it. I am manly enough to be vulnerable and cry about it. I hope you are all well.