My boyfriend and I (both 18) tried to have sex for the first time. We’ve been together for 3 years, and I’m extremely comfortable around him. I get wet easily around him, I enjoy being intimate with him, and I genuinely wanted it so badly, but it just couldn’t happen.
When he tried to penetrate me, it just wouldn’t go in. We tried different positions, I tried relaxing and stretching myself open, but nothing worked. It almost felt like the opening physically couldn’t get any wider 🙁
We both finger me sometimes, but only up to 2 fingers. Even then, it feels very tight inside. There isn’t much space to move or curl the fingers around. It feels like they’re enclosed between two walls. I’m always relaxed, so I don’t understand why this happens.
The whole experience brought down my confidence because we tried everything we could think of. He was patient and gentle the entire time, which I’m grateful for, but I still ended up feeling disappointed in myself.
We didn’t use lube, and foreplay was only around 15 minutes before we tried having sex. We did continue foreplay in between attempts too, but it still didn’t work.
Does this sound normal? Is this something I can fix on my own with more time, lube, and practice, or do I need to consult a professional?