Hello! This is a throw away account.
I will try not to write full essay, make it short and relevant as possible.
Him 41yr and me 31 yrs – no kids. He keeps cheating,lying and gaslighting. He is a covert narcissist and feed on mercy and attention of others specially women.
I caught him last year, he was saying I love you, shared our song to her, telling her exactly same thing he tells me, made her buy the same dress he asked me to buy.
Whenever I confronted him about him cheating on me, based on my observation and knowing him, he gaslighted me a lot.
When I asked for a divorce, he didn’t want to and begged me for a chance. I am a people pleaser and dumb, so I said yes, I genuinely thought it would work, I even tried to understand why he cheated. He was fighting his own demons, bla bla bla. We share a google account together, he uses it to browse, i don’t think he realised that. For the past three months, i have been collecting screenshots of him searching for that woman online, every week, during his lunch time, same pattern, he looks at her photo on google image. I know what he is doing.
We have a finance company in Asia together we are preparing to move there in some months. I don’t want to lose that company, it needs both of us to function, plus I really want to move there. We share a pet together, she is our child.
Despite all that, I care about him a lot. How do I ask for divorce and stand my ground? I give in easily whenever he begs, we both are people with no family or anyone to rely on for support. I can handle myself but I am worried for him.
I don’t want to be romantically involve with him anymore, all these cheating, i can’t. Some tips on how to talk the divorce?
Thank you