I really messed up and hurt my girlfriend, and I feel terrible about it.
A while ago, during an argument, I said something about how she never sends me pictures and that when she does, they’re usually filtered or taken at angles. I didn’t think about how it sounded at the time, and I didn’t even remember saying it later. But now I realize how bad it actually was.
Recently, she kept asking me if I thought she was ugly, and I was honestly confused at first. When she finally got me to remember what I said, it hit me how much I hurt her. What I said made her feel like I see her as ugly, and that really breaks me because that’s the complete opposite of how I actually feel.
Around that time, I had also argued with my sister because she made comments about my girlfriend’s photos always having filters. I defended my girlfriend then, but I let that whole situation get to me more than I realized. Later, when I argued with my girlfriend, I still ended up saying something similar, and I hate that I did that.
I can’t stop thinking about the fact that I hurt her confidence and made her question herself because of something I said in anger. She didn’t deserve that at all.
The truth is, I genuinely think she’s beautiful, and I care about her more than anyone else. It honestly hurts knowing that I made her feel the opposite.
Now things are really bad between us, and I can feel her pulling away. I’ve apologized, but it doesn’t feel like enough, and I understand why.
I’m not trying to make excuses. I know this is my fault. I just really want to fix this and somehow make her feel safe and valued again.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, I’d really appreciate any advice.
TL;DR: I hurt my girlfriend’s confidence with something I said in anger. I didn’t realize how bad it was, and now things between us are falling apart.