I(29m) and my partner(29f) have been in a relationship now for 10 months but have been talking for over 2 years now. We met on tinder and at first I didn’t notice. We only hung out like once a month or so and we always hooked up when we did so I didn’t notice. But once we started dating and seeing each other everyday I started to notice that we weren’t having sex for long stretches at a time. I would ask if she wanted to and something would always come up. The day was too stressful, she wiped too hard and it hurt down there, or just too tired. And that’s ok, but it just seemed like she never wanted to have sex. Even if she said yes, she would make a face like it was a nuisance. After we had been together for a while, she told me she was raped, and that was why she was so averse to sex. I just don’t know what to do, because I love this girl. Every aspect of the relationship outside of our sex life is great. She’s really caring, she’s thoughtful, she makes sure I’m ok always and we have so many interests in common and work well in the house together. Just this has been affecting me. I can’t get it out of my head when I’m at work, or when I’m home gaming. I want to be close to her, and worship her and develop this bond with our bodies. We don’t cuddle much either so it just feels distant sometimes even when we are laying right next to each other. We have talked about therapy but we are both to broke to afford it right now. I feel so sleazy and disgusting having feelings about this all the time and making her feel like a disappointment but I just don’t know how to shake the feelings.