Hello everyone. I need advice.
So me and my boyfriend are together quite shortly. We met on a dating app and it was so nice at first. He would flirt and compliment me quite a lot.
I’m a very insecure person, but I try hard to not let that take over my judgement or to let it cause issues in the relationship. Thought right now, I’m afraid I’ve done just that.
He has a much, much lower libido than I do. Which is no problem at all in itself, I could NEVER get mad at him or berate him for such a thing, since it’s not at all his fault in the first place. I’m very understanding of this and just deal with it, because it’s my problem, but it gets in my head pretty often and my insecurities are through the roof.
The issue is though, even if we are together shortly, he stopped complimenting me and flirting with me a while ago. I didn’t pay mind to it at first, but now he deliberately ignores any of my attempts at being flirty with him (just for fun, not to initiate intimacy, it could be just over text).
He never compliments me. Like, ever. It hurts my feelings badly, because I compliment him multiple times a day, simply because I see him and think about how handsome he is and how in love I am and I just want him to hear that. I don’t get that from him.
I tried talking to him about this so many times. I told him it really makes me feel unwanted. He always said he’ll try to maybe compliment me a little more, but it’s not getting any better. I asked him if anything changed, since he used to do all of this a lot in the beginning, but he says nothing, everything’s fine.
I ask if he’s okay, if something is going on that he needs to talk about. Again, nothing.
So at this point, I need advice – how to feel contempt with essentially feeling like my partner doesn’t even find me attractive, because it’s really not his fault? I don’t know how to cope anymore, or how many more times do I have to bring it up. Does anyone have similar experience?
TL;DR: My boyfriend doesn’t show me that he’d find me attractive, I need help with being able to feel okay with it and maybe have some self-worth.