I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
I’m someone who genuinely enjoys pleasing my partner, especially orally. I pay attention to reactions, sounds, body language, all of that. A girl(she is bi) I’ve been intimate with told me multiple times that I was better than her ex(female) and that I made her feel really good. We’ve also had a lot of mutual flirting, sexting, and intimacy over time.
But even with all that reassurance, there’s still this insecurity in the back of my mind sometimes:
“What if she was just being nice?”
“What if she didn’t actually enjoy it as much as she said?”
“What if she just didn’t know how to say no?”
The last thing I’d ever want is for someone to do something they’re not actually comfortable with.
At the same time, I also know that people usually don’t repeatedly come back to experiences they dislike, especially intimate ones. So part of me thinks I should trust her words and reactions more instead of overanalyzing everything.
I guess I’m just wondering, how do you personally learn to trust positive feedback during intimacy instead of constantly doubting yourself?