I recently moved to a new city and reconnected with some friends I knew from prior work/school. Great, except it’s only really been just that: reconnecting. It’s ”let’s get lunch!” and then you chat for two hours, catch up, and then you wait for another three months to talk. Don’t know if others feel the same way, but it’s exactly the kind of friendship I dont like. The one where you just catch each other up on stuff once in a blue moon and are like “whaaat? You’re pregnant since two months? Got a new job a couple weeks back! Cool! Well, hope it goes well until the next time I see you!
I’d love to have a close friend or two who can just hit me up and vice versa to hang out at any given time. Message each other a couple times a day or week. So something where you’re more of a permanent fixture in each other’s lives.
But how do you get to that point? Is that still something you can expect when you’re in your late 20s/early 30s and everybody is just busy, creating families, having entrenched friend groups already, etc.? I suppose the advice is to just pick up the phone and ask people to hang out consistently, but there’s a voice in my head that’s like “that’s weird. They’ll just be bothered and weirded out by you.”