context: me (22M) and my (22F) gf have been together coming up on 2 years and i dont know what to do…
im 22 working in blue collar, making good money for my age, my gf is 22 and is working at coffeeshop. She recently graduated UNI, and has since started working at coffee shop. Ive always been independent, i grew up without alot of help or family while she is opposite. i have a couple issues… she has never had a license so i take her to places she needs and if its not me its her family. her family never made it imperative for her to do simple life things that i feel like everyone should, now despite i push her to get her license and every conversation turns into it just stressing her out and (i feel like i only do it so i can just say atleast i tried to help). ive also just tried to have simple conversations to see where her head is about the situation only to be shut down bc it stresses her out. ive also held conversations about how much it stresses me out feeling like i have to pick up in spots, but nothing changes, we hangout almost everyday (due to me picking her up) but when i choose not too than im the bad guy that doesnt want to see or spend time with her, also to mention i was the one who motivated her to get coffeeshop job. i do love her and i want the best for her but sometimes i feel like there will be no growth with or without me…she constantly asks if i love her and i tell her i do but i feel like ive been getting burnt out not only on my life but both ours at this point. mind you i know im not perfect , and probably lack on certain things but how can u blame me when im basically carrying us.
i do love her and i want the best for her but sometimes i feel like there will be no growth with or without me. also i feel like im not becoming who or what i wanna be in life being in this relationship, i just dont wanna be the bad guy… i can give more context just ask! i definitely forgot things