My boyfriend and I originally met at the job we both worked at when he was 18m and I was 20f. I didn’t really think anything of him other than a coworker at the time because he seemed young to me but in the fall of 2024 when he was 19 and I was 21, we became friends because I reached out to him regarding an event he invited me to. I thought he seemed cool and friendly so I suggested we hang out. We gradually started hanging out, and during our winter break, we began to like each other. I was initially super hesitant because of the age gap and also from being at different colleges (we live in the same city) and being in different grades. But in January of 2025, we decided to date because of our similar interests as well as just having fun together. I would always go to his dorm or he would always come to my apartment. He was a sophomore at the time while I was a senior and I graduated in May of last year. During the summer, I met his family and started staying at his house sometimes. He turned 20 and then I turned 22 in the summer. Now that he still has one year left and I’m actively working and considering going to graduate school, I can feel the gap widening even more between us. He lives at home, goes to school, and still works at the part-time job that I worked at. I live in an apartment with a roommate, I’m in a different state from my family, and I have a full-time job. I really love him but I’m not sure if this is strange because we’re kind of in different stages of life now. He sometimes has to ask for permission to do things on a school night which feels odd to me as an adult who doesn’t live with parents. I always want to support him, but I’m feeling a bit strange because the gap is becoming more noticeable. I hope I’m not taking away from his college experience.
Tl:dr: my boyfriend and I have a 2 year age gap. I graduated college last year and he will be graduating next year. the gap only seems to widen as I continue my career outside of school. I love him, but would it be strange to continue to pursue this relationship because we’re in different stages of life?