Met this absolute bombshell at a bar this weekend. Instant chemistry. We spent basically the whole night together drinking, dancing, laughing nonstop, etc. She invited me back to her apartment. We cuddled, made out a lot, things got very physical, and she clearly wanted sex.
Thing is, I genuinely liked her and didn’t really want it to feel like a one night stand. I told her that. She seemed to understand but was definitely surprised/confused because it’s apparently never happened to her before. We still stayed intimate (oral because tbh I felt bad for getting her excited with no intention of penetration, sleeping together for a while, etc.) but I ultimately didn’t go all the way. She joked that I was evil for getting her worked up with the foreplay.
I asked her if it was cool if we still go to sleep together, but she said she didn’t feel comfortable since we didn’t have sex. I totally understood. Before I left, we talked about seeing each other next weekend. Then she proceeded to passionately kiss me for like 2 min. I was the one that had to slowly pull away. The next morning she texted me first, apologized for kicking me out, asked if I got home safe, and later said she had fun and it was nice meeting me. We’ve texted lightly since then and she’s been responsive, but now I’m overthinking whether not sleeping with her actually hurt my chances. Asked her “we still on for Sat night?” I know a great spot” but it just got left on read.
Trying to get honest opinions because I genuinely haven’t felt this strongly about someone in a long time. The chemistry was unlike anything I’d ever imagine having with someone. It really felt like I found wifey haha.
TL:DR I turned down a girl wanting me to have penetrative sex after a night out. We agreed on seeing each other again but she’s left me on read after I asked if we’re still on for Sat night