Hello all,
I am starting to get really frustrated with my wife. We've been together 6 years, married almost 4. She's an amazing woman. So loving, kind, smart, beautiful. The thing is her sex drive is totally different than mine…i can easily do it once a day, she only seems to be interested once a week at most.
She also frequently has cramps. Always during her period but also when she's ovulating. Now, i FULLY understand that when she's in pain, she doesn't want to have sex and i respect that. The problem is, she'll also say she's not in the mood because she's "tired"…but then she'll stay up watching Tiktoks for an hour in bed. She never lets me try to ACTUALLY SEDUCE HER like literally every other woman I've ever dated. It's like she decides at the beginning of the day whether she's in the mood to let me touch her AT ALL and nothing i say or do can change that.
My issue is mainly this: she NEVER, and i mean never…offers to pleasure ME during the times when she's not capable of having penatrative sex. I've brought this up multiple times but she always accuses me of only wanting sex and not thinking of her.
What should i do to ensure my needs are met?