I told my husband that it seems like he’s letting himself go. The weight gain, the lack of personal grooming (hair cuts, beard trim, nail cut etc). I’m just kind of fed up with it and I ask myself, how much longer do I want to live a life and be in a marriage where this is my life. Constant reminders to do the most basic life simple tasks.
He’s not picking up enough of the slack and the resentment has been building for sometime. The house to do list grows and grows. And I feel like I’m still carrying a LOT of the household and family load.
Will I look back in 10, 20, 30 years and say why didn’t I end things sooner if I was so unhappy. Would it be better for everyone if we separated?
We spend time with other couples and families regularly and sometimes I see what my peers spouses are doing and I’m like “wow. I don’t think my husband would ever even think to do that”. Things like wiping down the inside of the microwave, doing other kitchen related things without being asked.
When you’re married to a man who’s 40+ and still needs reminders for the most basic simple tasks, does it naturally get to a point where the partner just can’t take it anymore?