Throwaway because my bf is also on reddit
My boyfriend (28M) and I (27F) had some disagreement after I came back from holiday. We haven't been together for very long (2 months) yet so I booked it before we even knew each other. (We got in contact last christmas) 3 days before I went he had to have surgery. There were some complicaitions with bleeding, pain and stitches breaking the night before I left. I was on the phone with him until he went to the ER to get it checked. At this point it was already 1:30AM and he told me to go to bed because of my flight in the morning. I told him that I'd like him to text me when he got home so that i'd see it in the morning. I couldn't really sleep and checked every hour if he made it home yet. I texted him in the morning and waited for a response. I was very worried since I didn't hear anything from him. So around midday right before my flight he texted me that he is home, okay and fell asleep but is going to sleep again. I understand that it was a long day but a simple "I'm ok" text would have been enough. So during my trip I texted him and also asked about his health.
He did answer but he also only texted like once or twice a day and said that I shouldn't worry about it. He also asked early into my trip if I wanted to watch a movie together after my trip. I had been gone for about a week and a half. After I came back home he called him and we talked a bit but he didn't ask a single question about my trip, even though he knows barely anything about it because I didn't want to annoy him with texting him a lot. So like a few minutes into the conversation he aksed if I wanted to watch the movie now and that he is excited about it. I told him I had to do some things around the house and had to take out the laundry in about 20 minutes but after that I was free to watch the movie uninterrupted. So then he didn't say anything for a little while and I told him we could still talk he can ask me stuff or talk bout his week. His answer was: "I am just waiting for the 20 minutes to be over so I can watch the movie" I was honestly kinda hurt that the movie was way more important to him than anything else. So I brought up that I would have liked if he texted me after he came home from the ER. He just said that he had a long day and fell asleep after coming home. We went back and forth for a bit until he said that he wasn't in the mood to discuss this. After that we didn't say anything anymore. I muted myself and did my laundry. After stalling a bit and waiting I went back to the phone after 45 minutes.
We basically watched the movie and he talked like nothing happend. We watched a few videos together after the movie and talked. During those videos constant controlling came up and he made a joke about the correlation between me and that. I was kind of shocked he saw my texts that way. But we also joke a lot about stuff we don't mean. So i thought maybe it's one of those things. After a while he wanted to go to bed and said we'll talk about an upcoming event and the things that stood out in a negative way this evening tomorrow. But he hasn't said anything yet and I don't want to be the one to bring it up again. But I also think that you need good communication for a relationship to work.
We both don't have a lot of relationship experience btw.
How can I make him understand that I don't want to control him but just not want to be kept in the dark? Was I too pushy or too sensitive?
TL;DR: Boyfriend had surgery with healing complications and went to the ER. Asked him to text me when he got home. Next moring I went on a prebooked holiday. He didnt text until midday. After the my holiday I was hurt because he wanted to rather watch a movie than talk about anything else (like his week/ health/ my trip etc) He got annoyed and called me jokingly controlling because I said I would have liked it if he texted me that he got home safe after the ER.