I (F26) met him (M38) a couple months ago. At the very beginning he told me he’s got diagnosed with testicular cancer, got an operation, starts chemo. I decided that I want to continue this relationship as I fell in love with him from the first sight. We live 150 miles from each other. Because of his health condition I was the one who drove to him to spend weekends together. In the meantime he started chemo. I tried to understood and respect the fact the he was feeling bad and understood when he said that he can’t meet me during the weekend (even though I told him I’m super okay with him sleeping the whole weekend, just wanted to see him, lie down next him, etc.) Our contact was getting weaker with each week: him replying me after few days, me analyzing if that’s because he can’t or he doesn’t want to. Two weeks ago (it was a national holiday, so it was a 3 days long weekend) he suggested we went somewhere together, but I couldn’t. He left me with no response for a 5 days, just to say that he spent the weekend with his friends, abroad. I got hurt, like really hurt. He couldn’t text me but was able to do something like that? I told him that I felt ignored, but again, he didn’t answer. Few days ago I told him that I’m really sad with us not talking as often as we used to. It was on Friday. I still didn’t get an answer. I know he got a call from hospital that day. Tomorrow he has his CT results so very important day. I suggested that maybe we could spend this weekend together, I know he might be nervous, so we could do something fun. As a response, he said that in his opinion our “ideas” for this relationship ended, that we lack the contact (as if it was my choice!) and that after chemo he wants to live the country anyway. He also said that he doesn’t understand why I “played” with him few times.
I texted him back, telling that I thought that he needs some space because of his health condition. I was the only one insisting on the meetings, he always said no. I also said that I personally have a lot of ideas for our relationship and the future together (he told me about the plan to move abroad from the very beginning, I am okay with that, would be happy to do so), as long as he wants it to. I didn’t understand the part of me “playing” him.
Still didn’t get the response…
Should I double text him before tommorow results? Should I text him after them and then end this relationship? I really care about him and really thought we have a lot in common…
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