I (F) just ended my 4-year wlw relationship, and I honestly feel like I’m falling apart.
We lived together for 2 years. My ex is very avoidant emotionally — I was always the one initiating hard conversations, trying to fix things, and at times even begging for emotional effort because I felt so alone in the relationship.
She also cheated on me twice, but I still stayed and tried to make things work because I loved her deeply.
We recently had another conflict related to her avoidant behavior, and I finally decided to break up with her. I sent a long, emotional breakup message explaining everything I felt and why I couldn’t continue anymore.
It’s been 1 week, and she still hasn’t replied on any platform. No message, no acknowledgment, nothing.
I feel completely stuck. I keep thinking I need closure to move on, but I also feel like I’m slowly losing my mind waiting for a response that may never come. Part of me wants to message her again just to feel something back from her, but another part of me is scared I’ll just get more hurt.
I don’t know how to accept that after 4 years together, I might not even get a proper response or goodbye.
What should I do?