Guys, can you tell me if I’m the one in the wrong here? My husband works in the aviation industry abroad, and he didn’t know that I could access his Instagram account. I found out that for a whole year, he had been talking to a lot of women, and I have screenshots of everything saved in my hidden photos.
Eventually, he found out that I knew everything. Of course, at first I was really angry. He said he was ashamed, that he would make it up to me, and things like that. Eventually, we became okay again.
But there are still times when I get triggered — like when I hear a name that matches one of the women he talked to, or when certain topics come up that remind me of them. He does try to comfort and reassure me, but I just can’t help it.
Then during his most recent trip home, one of the women he used to talk to happened to be a cabin crew member on his flight, and they even took a picture together. I got angry all over again, but he keeps saying he can’t avoid them because of his job.
I don’t know… all I feel is anger. Like why does it seem so easy and normal for him, as if nothing happened? I end up crying out of frustration and anger. What should I do?