I’m so upset about this whole ordeal.
It’s been awhile since we’ve had sex – about three-ish months. We’ve both had a lot of stress and just overall busyness. Both of us have tried to suggest sex once or twice in this time, but we also have a two year old which makes finding time difficult.
I have a low libido and my husband’s is high. I’m still breastfeeding which contributes to my already lower libido. His birthday was yesterday and I had already planned on giving him oral, which he said right before his birthday that he wanted. (I had already decided to before he mentioned this)
However, yesterday, he said he really, really wanted double head. We’ve had two threesomes and I’ve already mentioned I’m not interested in continuing at the moment. I did agree though, since it’s his birthday, but I didn’t want to have our child around while this happened. He wanted to do it after our son went to sleep. I wasn’t comfortable with this. He blew up and has had an attitude since. He’s even treated our son rudely. We don’t have a babysitter readily available, so it would be some time before we could make it happen.
I get his sexual frustration, but he didn’t mention this to me before the blowup. I just assumed the stress was getting to him too. I probably should’ve talked to him before all this happened, instead of assuming. He wanted to have sex after my period was over, and I told him, but he didn’t seem interested after I told him.
I’m not sure where to go from here. He’s said he’s given up, which he says things out of emotion sometimes, but I’m so heartbroken. I feel worthless and like I can’t satisfy him anymore.
Edit: the birthday head I was supposed to give him didn’t work out, since he was too enraged about the double head situation