He says that he never felt this way until I started devaluing his efforts and time he spends on me. He recently often started saying that he doesn’t see the point in doing anything for me if I don’t appreciate him. I appreciate him, but I often feel like he expects some major reaction from me when he does bare minimum and often tells me that he could be doing something better with his time. I definitely pin point my mistakes and some ways that I don’t appreciate him, but I find it incredibly hard to show the appreciation when I often don’t feel appreciated or loved enough. We’re long distance and it was over text. I have no idea what I can possibly say and he went to sleep. Could I suggest seeing a family therapist or something? How could I respond to that in a way that shows that I care about him and our relationship and am willing to work to fix it? I’ve got no idea how to figure out our issues on our own and whether he would even want to. Over the past 8 months we’ve been together we’ve broken up multiple times and I feel like there’s so little chance of us figuring it out. But I love him.
**TL; DR:** How do I save this relationship?