Hello all! So as the title suggests I’m currently unsure as to whether to end my situationship or continue to go with the flow.
I (28F) met this guy (33M) on a dating app about 3 months ago. Right after our first date he mentioned that he was in the middle of transitioning into a new career (TBD) and wasn’t in a place for anything serious. I was happy with that because I also wasn’t looking for anything serious and he wasn’t what I was looking for on paper (he’s alternative punk rock and I’m a good girl).
As time has progressed though, he’s started acting more and more like a boyfriend — he comes to pick me up from work, he buys me gifts, he cooks for me, he wants to hang out every few days, he plans dates for us, he texts me all the time etc. this has made me confused cause it contradicts the idea of “casual”.
The problem is that he’s inconsistent like some days he’s there others he’s not which makes sense because we’re casual but now it’s starting to bother me — which I know means that I’ve caught feelings.
This last week we had a fight because of it and I could tell he was really anxious to resolve it and made statements like “I really miss you could we please talk about this?” “I really like you and it’s scaring me” Etc. My friends are saying for me to break up with him because they feel that he’s already written me off as just casual due to the fact that we’re so different in terms of career — with me being “out of his league” (his words and that of his friends) and him always comparing us indirectly.
I lean avoidant and so all these feelings are also overwhelming me, particularly the idea that I potentially like him more than he likes me. It also bothers me this idea he keeps saying of me being “out of his league” since I don’t see it like that and almost makes me feel like he’s penalizing me for my hard work.
I guess my question is — do I end it because of the fact that it probably won’t progress or do I give it time and see whether we both get to a place to where we want each other completely?