I am '30 F' and my fiance is '31 M' and we have been dating for a little over one month.
ok long story short, I don't want to make this a big situation if it is not but I met someone on a dating app and the first date was disney land , we moved in after knowing each other for one month ,….i know i am realizing now this was not the smartest move. The apartment is really cute and he is paying all the rent but i am i guess expected to pay for groceries even tho i barely have an income …when i was living with my parents i was saving a lot of money …also at my parents house i was really close to my younger siblings and my parents and my disabled sister …anyways… it seems to bother him a lot when i hang out with my family it feels like he slowly took me away from my family and i guess i started to think this was normal part of marriage but im starting to be concerned. Ive been extremely depressed and stressed out and i couldnt tell why, but after journaling tonight i realized that it is a RED flag that he seems to be upset whenever i hang out with my family and since i moved in with him i have not been able to hang out with my family by myself except a couple times while he was at work but i had to rush to be home when he came home. even tho he said he would not expect me to cook or clean for him…THE EXPECTATION feels so loud. he doesnt tell me what i should do but theres this silence and just big feeling i have that i have to clean, do laundry and cook and buy grocieries even tho he helps me with dishes and helps me cook , he seems perfect and i dont want to admit theres anything wrong it was so much work to move in here but now im starting to get scared because he wants me to be with him as soon as he is off work 2:30-sleep with him. I can deal with the chores i guess even tho it does feel immensely overwhelming for me because he made it clear that i would not have to cook for him if we moved in together and honestly i thought it was gonna be fun to live together. thought i was still going to be able to visit my family whenever i wanted but he gets really upset whenever i plan an event with them and very annnoyed at my little borther and sister he seems to be jealous of them….ugh idk what to do u guys….i thought everything was fine oh one other thing he proposed to me in bed and i said yes the ring is so beautiful but the next day at a family dinner his mom told him that i should not wear the ring to the dinner so i would not take away the spotlfight from his brother. i am so pissed about this but at this point i am more upset that i am not able to see my family as much 😞 it makes me so sad. I do not work or have a car and i am far away from my mental health program thati. used to go to so i feel very lonely and depressed. My plan is to just make it work…. I am going to hang out with my family more and cook dinner less. It's not fair that i should constantyl be working at the house and staying home just to be there when he is home, what if i want to go watch a movie with my family….at first i thought it was cute how we were always together all the time but now im realziing its actually kinda scary it feels emoitanlly abusive because its definitely not verbaly abusive he is very nice but he makes me feel guilty for leaving him alone or not sleeping with him. I am up rightt now it is 1:00amhe is for sure going to be sad i left him in bed tonight again. hmm idk u guys what do u think am i over reacting?sorry that this has a lot of spell checks and writting errors…also for more context my sister who is disabled needs my help a lot and he complains about going to the mall with her and has enocuraged i cut her out of my life because she "is a bad influence , or we argue too much" also i was sad i had not see my little brother and sister in a long time and he said they could come over and he was very clearly irritated that they were coming over. also there was an event sunday my parents invited me to and he did not want to go but he said he knew i would complain about not going so basically we went just so he wouldnt have to hear me complain he admiitted so i got really sad when we showed up and cried a little but he was acting happy and was smiling like telling me to cheer up , i decided to get a drink and he bought it for me and i decided to change my mood and make this a good day and we had a good time in the end but the switch up was so strong. I was sooo sad i wanted to just go home and cry.
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**TL;DR;** : should I be concerned?