Dang, I was deep in the denial stage when I wrote part 1, huh? I was already in therapy at that point as some comments suggested, but was still quite early into it. Still really desperate to save a relationship that I should’ve given up on way earlier. It’s wild to read that now and see what I was willing to let myself be put through. And then seeing how much I still let myself be put through after that initial post.
Welp, I am happy to report that I finally gave up! It still took me way longer than it should’ve to pull the plug, but the plug has been pulled. We had a final talk in December (See paragraph 1), where I finally said enough was enough. We had already filed at that point, and were just waiting for the court date. And currently we’re 4 months past our divorce being officially finalized.
I do have some fun details I could get into. How her AP apparently has 2 other side chicks besides her, how my ex and AP were planning a trip to Vegas while she was telling me she was going to actually take time to herself, or how she keeps breaking no contact post divorce to ask if I’m starting some drama or another, to just scratch the surface. But there’s kinda not really a point(?). I’m in a significantly better relationship now with someone who actually values me, and not the money I could spend on her, and now I get to have dates where we make Pokémon teams for characters in the DND podcast we both listen to.
Like, there’s not really a point in getting into all the tomfuckery with my ex cause I’m in an objectively happier situation now. And frankly, it wouldn't be worth the brain power to reopen those. I'd much rather spend that energy thinking about my new GF. This just feels like the final line to write in the story between me and my ex, so I’m writing it so I can permanently close it.