My boyfriend (30M) and I (24F) have been together for two years now. He’s always been a little on the heavy side but for the last six months he’s gain even more weight and I’m starting to finding it a little unattractive.
I come from a healthy family where we all have generally healthy habits and my boyfriend is from a totally different background.
He snacks a lot, doesn’t potion out his food, he doesn’t like working out and generally doesn’t have very healthy habits when it comes to nutrition/exercise. A lot of the times he eats until his stomach hurts and sometimes this goes on to the next day. I know it might sound like I’m judgmental or like I’m body shaming but I genuinely care about his health and the health of our relationship.
I love him and I want to continue being attracted to him. If he keeps gaining more weight it will be heard for me to keep being attracted to him. He has a demanding job and he’s a very anxious person. I’ve tried recommending medication and therapy (for his anxiety) but he’s a little reluctant.
I think all of these things are affecting him. I think his anxiety and job contributed to him gaining weight. I don’t want to put him down, I understand where he is, I’ve been there too and thanks to therapy and medication, I’m doing better mentally.
I don’t know how to have this conversation, I know either way it’s going to hurt. I just want him to be healthy. His weight is affecting his mental health, physical health and my sexual attraction towards him. It is even altering our sex life.
Any advice would be appreciated. Also to clarify I don’t want him to be some super model thin or like a bodybuilder. I just want him to be healthier.
**TL;DR;** :
My boyfriend (30M) is gaining weight because of his anxiety and demanding job. He snacks a lot, eats big portions of food and does not like exercising. This is affecting our sex life because I’m finding it heard to be attracted to him and is finding it hard to be sexual with me. Any advice?