So me and my girlfriend have been trying to have sex for a little while and the first time we tried it just wouldn’t go in at all it felt like pushing my dick into a wall and she was on top of me during this attempt then we tried again just for it to feel like i was pushing my dick into a wall now the last time i tried i spit on my dick (ik its kinda odd) and it started to go in but she said it hurt like a lot and now im hearing her tell me about how when she tries to finger herself it just feels like nothing and that it also just hurts so i dont know what to do because i want to have sex but i dont want to hurt her and im horrified that if we do have sex ill be the only one getting pleasure from it