Several months back I introduced my now ex-boyfriend to a close friend during the holidays. My friend owns a large company that includes a restaurant, catering and events. At the time my ex was looking for steady work (was driving Uber), and had a long history of serving and bartending. My friend suggested that he come work for her, they're looking for servers/bartenders. Instead of applying for those roles, my ex applies for two very different jobs, both of which he has zero experience, along with a very poor resume' (which I pointed out prior). He starts the interview process, goes through 3 rounds of interviews, while heavily mentioning how he knows me and the owner, spent Christmas together, again despite having no experience and doing no personal learning about the roles. Ultimately he wasn't offered either role. I found him a serving job the very same week that he was denied the roles, which he said was a better fit.
Since, it has now been this massive, recurring issue that is constantly brought up. If I address something he does that hurts me, or fact check a lie that he's told, the whole interview situation gets thrown in my face. He's now used it as a means for breaking up, that I should have taken accountability by blacklisting, or confronting my friend (who wasn't involved in the interviewing whatsoever). Is that fair? I feel that my involvement was simply the introduction, and that I shouldn't be expected to sever ties with my friend or boycott her business. He owned the interviews and outcome, not me, and should have applied for the jobs they initially discussed. Is that fair?