Basically the title. I’ve (23F) gone on dates a handful of times, but I’ve never had a bf or been intimate before. On paper, it’s not really a big deal, but I’m starting to think that maybe I should kind of give up to alleviate the pressure and loneliness that it’s causing me. I have great friends and familial relationships, but I guess it’s just the romantic aspect of things I yearn for.
I have hobbies, which are language classes, trying new coffee shops, and coed soccer. I’ve been flirted with there (sports) before, but I always realize that I’m being flirted with after it’s too late and I can’t make a move. Usually never see the guy again since they drop in and then there are some regulars I see frequently that I’m on a name to name basis with now. I also have a slight fear of shitting where I eat basically.
I really enjoy these hobbies, but I’m afraid that if I start dating guys who also go to these hobbies that things could go south and then it’s uncomfortable. I understand that people meet others to date at hobbies, but I don’t want to make my hobbies an IRL version of dating apps.
Do I just stop focusing on or decenter dating altogether to help ease the pressure of feeling behind? Do I have a bad approach? Am I doing anything wrong?