So I (55M) am one of those people who is super shy, timid, anxious and fearful. I have been married for almost 30 years to my wife (56F) and we have had three children, now adults. I am very grateful and lucky, as a young man I never thought any of this would be a possibility for me. And my wife is amazing, I owe everything to her. The problem is I have a lot of trouble dealing with the fear and stress that marriage entails. For example my friends seem to be able to just shrug it off when their wives yell and criticize them, but I can’t seem to do it. I often feel overwhelmed by fear and stress, which I think is adversely affecting my health. And it makes me a crappy husband as I just get more and more silent and withdrawn. I know I need to toughen up somehow but I don’t know how to do it. I have tried various medications, and my therapist recommends meditation but nothing has helped.