Hi! First of all, I apologize for any mistakes. English is not my first language.
I [24F] have a great relationship with my boyfriend (22M). No fights, no misunderstandings whatsoever.
To be honest, there was a click between us at the very beginning, and after one date we decided to be together (childish, I know).
He fell head over heels for me. He's very affectionate, sweet, caring, and loving.
Me on the other hand, I liked him, although not quite enough. I realized pretty soon that maybe I have made a mistake on agreeing that quick to be in a relationship with him.
He is not the type to go out; I love to go out on the other hand. He does not do well financially and that's part of the reason why he does not want to go out or spend money. On the other hand, I'm doing pretty well and I love to go out. He said he cannot manage his finances well- while I do and I also manage to save money from month to month.
And as you can imagine, because he is very tight on money, he never got me any gift. He warned me that we won't have any "expensive" dates and that I should not expect gifts from him. However, he has cooked for me on plenty occasions, he made me a massage because I have an awful back pain from sitting in the office chair all day. He still does thoughtful little gestures for me.
He is pretty smart- but I also think there are many types of smart; he does not fit the ones that I think are important. He is not financially smart and he managed to get in debt that he is trying to pay month by month- while getting himself in more debt.
-He is working a part-time job and he does not go to the classes although he has a lot of free time. He games instead and sleeps half a day pretty often. He has many exams that he has to redo. I work full time on the other hand.
– he is not too literary smart. I am sarcastic ironic, use hyperboles and he does not or cannot match my humor; good thing is, he is not getting upset either.
The sex is not great. It was great the first two times, but after I got used to it, I could not feel too much- and I almost always feel something. I have a high libido, but because the sex is bad, it got very low. If I could, I would not sleep with him at all. do not enjoy kissing him too much either.
He smells sometimes and I find it pretty repulsive. I used not to mind the sweat at all when I dated other guys in the past- but that was because I was really attracted to them.
In spite of all of this, he is an amazing guy, but I just feel like I made the wrong choice by agreeing to be with him this quickly. I thought that maybe if I stay longer, it would grow on me and I would start to like him more, but I'm doubting the relationship even more each day. I don't feel anything for him. I care for him, but that's all. He is a wonderful human and a genuinely good person.
I'm thinking that we are both young and I should not settle for someone for whom I do not have any romantical feelings. He also deserves better- he deserves someone who genuinely loves him.
Should I give it more time? I was thinking to discuss about everything with him, but will that make anything better? The attraction seems to be gone for me.
TL;DR: My boyfriend has some cons, but he is a great person. However, I lost all attraction to him. What should I do?