TLDR: I feel I do 80% of work and my wife does 20% and I wish if I could change the balance.
I (42 M) am married to my love (35 F). We have been married for 7 years, in a relationship for 8. I feel my partner is not putting enough effort. I work 2 jobs to make ends meet. She is stay at home mom of 6y old. Yet I do not get enough intimacy. I am expected to help around the house as well. And if I complain I believe I build a lot of resentment towards me. She says she loves me, but I am slowly deterioting mentaly and phyisicaly. There is allways an excuse why she does not work or go beyond herself to help me out with my burden.
She is very religious towards her tv shows she follows, her conversations with her mom that can last for hours. And when we are alone, kids asleep. She is allways tired/sleepy or has a stomachache or headache. Mind that I work each day from 8am to 11pm. And she gets at least 2-4 hours more sleep each day.
Mind that she is a pretty good mom to our kid.
I do not know how to proceed. I do not want to lose her. But I do not think we have same goals in life. Mine is more towards prosperity of our whole family, and hers is more towards slowpace easy life.
I am torn as what to do.