A bit of context on us first:
– Me and my girl are together for 6 years at the end of 2026, we've become engaged 2 years ago.
– We rent an apartment. Since last year we started talking more seriously about buying our own place, we've even visited some.
– Im a civil engineer and shes an architect, we both make around 5k monthly each and due to several reasons, so far, we've only managed to save about 1k monthly each, even after cutting a bunch of expenses.
– In our estimates, in 3 years we will be able to start paying for our home with some money saved in case of emergencies. We will then be paying for it for the next 10-15 years.
– currently im working and doing my masters. I dont have time or energy to look for another job that pays better. Also my current job is flexible enough to accomodate my masters hours, so i cant really complain.
– before my masters i used to make about 20% (1k-1,5k) more than i do today because i did some gig jobs and made some side cash. Back then i managed to save about 40k but in december 2025, i had to pay for some debts of my family. Im now back to 0.
Now, a bit of context about the situation:
– about a decade ago, i met this other girl, lets call her A, who was kinky af to say the least, eventually we got apart but she was a good person, nothing bad to say about her.
– about 3 years ago A sent me a message out of nowhere asking to see how i was, being flirty and all. Since i wasnt really interested i cut the conversation and we havent talked since, until…
– about a week ago A contacted me again. Context on her: shes extremely wealthy and apparently now (and even back then i suspect) has clients that look for kinky stuff that she apparently provides. A pimp.
– she has asked me to do things with her clients. We havent discussed which things but she asked "how far are you willing to go for money?"
– i've since talked to my fiancee and she was reluctant but agreed if everything remained virtual, like videocalls, photos, this stuff
– i've then talked to A that is now basically a pimp for rich kinky people. She says that while i can do the virtual stuff, the real money is in dating clients
– by real money she says i can basically double my income, from 5k to 10k working basically weekends
Now comes me asking for relationship advice:
– my fiancee is clearly against this, there's no convincing her otherwise, as far as im concerned
– i really believe i can make some money out of this and see this basically as a transaction. My body for money, simple as
– i understand that if found out this would obviously put a huge obstacle moving forward in our relationship
– my main idea is to go for it with some limitations as to what i'd be willing to do, but with the mindset that if enough money is put on the table, i'd be willing to accept
– i want to try and see if i can actually make money regularly with this. If i actually can, i plan on telling her after a few months
– if this doesnt work out i plan on burying and forgetting this ever happened
– i've never cheated on my fiancee
– im straight, although i've kissed guys in parties before i've never did anything sexual, and if what the girl says is true, this is mostly for gay rich dudes, this wouldnt be a pleasure thing for me, more of a sacrifice for money (gay for pay)
– to me money buys time, instead of waiting 3 years to start paying for our house (i think in english the term would be start paying mortgage?) to finish in about 10 to 15 years, doing sex work i could have it completely paid in 3 years…
– what are the weaknesses and vulnerabilities of this plan? Can i do anything to mitigate them? Is this even feasible or am i tripping?
Please, help, this is a situation im afraid to fuck up real bad and i really love my fiancee, even though im planning on going behind her back… damn i feel like crap for even entertaining this shit…
PS: all of this considering it actually pays what she claims it pays, if this is not the case im willing to just bury and forget.