My boyfriend and I live together with his mom rn (for some reason). Last night his mom wasn’t home, so I told him I wanted to have sex because it felt like good timing/privacy. He said we had a lot of time and could do it later instead. I joked that maybe he had a “cooldown” our term, like he already finished alone.
He kept denying it, so eventually he was like “fine let’s try then,” and we did it for a few minutes to prove that he doesn't have a cooldown. He also said something like, “Do you think I don’t want to have sex with you? We literally do it every day.”
Later that night I fell asleep. I woke up around 4am and he was still awake, and I got upset because in my head he said we’d do it later and then it just never happened. When he tried touching me, I pulled away and told him my issue was that he didn’t keep his word so I didn’t want him to touch me.
I also said we even could do it before he made our midnight snack (it was around 12am), he said he genuinely didn’t think much about it because he will just get tired after that. Then he offered to do it right then, but by that point I wasn’t in the mood anymore because I already felt rejected/disappointed.
This isn’t really about “not getting sex” one single night. I think it’s more the feeling of anticipation + him saying later and then it not happening. But at the same time, I know couples can’t always be perfectly synced sexually.
Am I overreacting here or.. what do you think? How do I avoid immediately giving in when he wants to be intimate with me?