I’m having a very hard time being comfortable enough to let my partner give me any pleasure down there other than penetration. I don’t let him go down on me, finger me, and I’m not super comfortable in certain sex positions that make my pussy very visible. The response I often hear is to look at the labia gallery, but that doesn’t do anything to help me not feel insecure about taste or smell or feeling, and it just shows me that yes, they all look different, but mine does too and I don’t like how different it looks. Before anybody asks, I have no health issues. No BV, STDs, yeast infection, nothing. I let my partner try occasionally, but I can’t get out of my head and just lay there uncomfortable the whole time. I’m not much help to him either because I have no idea what feels good. I don’t know how to orgasm from oral or fingering. It doesn’t feel possible. It’s this cycle I’ve been stuck in for years and I don’t know what to do