I’d like some outside perspective on a social situation because I’m not sure if I’m overthinking it.
I met a girl on campus recently through a club. She’s an international exchange student. We had a few brief but positive interactions in person. Nothing deep, but friendly enough. At one point she was included in a group I was with, and she acknowledged me normally (no obvious tension or avoidance).
After that, I tried to stay in touch a bit casually, as I love having friends from other countries. I sent a light message and also followed her on Instagram. At first, we had two or three substantial exchanges. I even found out we had a shared interest in something I happen to be a huge fan of, so I was especially eager to chat about it.
A few days later, we saw each other at an event, but we didn’t get to interact much. That night, her responses suddenly got a bit short/dry, which I didn’t read much into at first (I haven’t responded since the last dry text a few days ago). I also noticed something on Instagram: namely, she now hides her public stories from me which I discovered because a mutual friend could see them, but I couldn’t.
She’s also leaving campus soon, so the timing is limited regardless.
I’m trying to figure out whether this is just normal variation in how someone interacts socially / online, or if it’s more likely that I came across poorly at some point without realizing it. I tend to overthink social cues, so I’m not sure if I’m interpreting things accurately. I also have a hard time expressing my emotions in group settings, and I have a severe case of RBF. My anxiety makes me think I came off as a creep too, which is the last thing I want to be perceived as.
She did wave at me yesterday, and there hasn’t been any direct conflict. She’s also extremely social and extroverted, which is the polar opposite of how I am.
Would appreciate any outside perspective on how this might be read from an outside point of view.