There’s something I’ve been wondering about for a while. My experience with hobby groups activities has basically always been the same, a bunch of generally right‑wing, middle‑aged/retired dudes sitting around a table talking about random boring stuff for an hour and a half. Then everyone says goodbye, and a week to a month later it’s the exact same thing again, often with people you may or may not have met before (not that anyone actually remembers).
The most important metric seems to be a strict hierarchy based on who has been there the longest, with the original members constantly reminding everyone and being as pedantic about it as possible.
It leaves me wondering if I’m doing something wrong. Am I missing some unspoken cultural rule? Or have I just managed to stumble into the most boring, self‑important groups?
If you think it’s me, advice on what I could change would be very appreciated