I don't reach out anymore. But if someone were to reach out to me, I am usually the most easy going person, open and responsive and eager to get together. I know that organizing a meetup is work so I appreciate the person who is making the effort. And if I say I will show, I do.
But I have become bitter about it and don't want to anymore. I still get the occasional text to get together. Then they ask me to choose the day and time and place. But when I suggest details, it doesn't work for them. They don't like the place or they can't make the time and don't suggest another day. So I feel like I am spinning a wheel making suggestions for them to reject until something aligns for them. It's multiple times worse when it is a group. Why are they like this when they were the ones who wanted to get together?
Now I just text something like, "Sure let's get together. Tell me the time and place." I seem to get ghosted for this.
There are plenty of people who aren't like this. But the ones who are, I regret responding because I hate that kind of interaction. It might be a neurodivergent thing, like i feel 'strung up' because they take so many days and interactions to make a decision. Is it some kind of a power trip for them? Is there a better way to handle this?