We matched on an app, she was visiting family in my country for like a week or so, vibed really well in chat for like 2 days, went on a date, then to the hotel, then stayed another night, skipped a day due to separate family events then returned to the hotel for one more night before she left. Sex was great and we talked like crazy all the time, and we both said that it looks like something more than a hookup. We were both sober all the time, neither of us drinks alcohol or does drugs.
I half jokingly reminded her I work fully remotely, so idgaf where I live, and we actually talked it out a bit, and she invited me to visit her next month. It's not a long flight it's not that big of a deal.
First three weeks we talked and chatted all the time, but eventually she went offline for like a day or two, said she had a massive fuckup to deal with at work and everything returned to normal. Couple of days later she actually said she needs to focus on work now, which tracks, because while she was here she mentioned that May is a make or break moment in her lifetime career, she apologized and added that I am welcome to send her like memes and stuff, but she might be unavailable for a moment.
It's been two weeks now, she drops by every couple of days adding laughs and hearts to funny pictures and that's it. I think I am not overdoing it, keeping it to 1-2 memes a day.
Ghosting is a shitty thing and everybody tries to rationalize it initially, but I am trying to be fair and am assuming she just told me the truth and she really can't have any distractions right now.
Her b-day is coming up next week and I was supposed to be there by then, but I obviously won't go if it stays like this. I already got her a personal gift (like, something I know she likes and related to an inside joke), but I am not sure if I should send it to her. Chances of ghosting are never zero and I don't want to come out as a creep, but as I mentioned, I believe her and I just want to give her a birthday gift on time.
tl;dr
I (37M) want to send the girl I met (35F) a b-day gift, but don't want to do something unasked for in case she's ghosting me.